A Letter to Men -— Chinaza Favour

Dear men,

I am writing this brief letter to you because I want to believe that you do not already know, and that’s why you keep making this particular mistake in the DMs of some ladies out here.

First off, I know that this is social media but I need you to understand that the world has moved from 2go to more advanced platforms. While some ladies expose their bodies and create contents that appeal to you sensual desires, some ladies use these platforms to chart meaning courses for their lives.

When you see a lady whom you think is doing well, don’t go and start your conversation with FLATTERY. While some girls might fall for your sweet words, the ladies in the real sense of the word, who are goal-oriented, do not have time for such exchanges.

How could you propose marriage to a lady in your first message to her? It is off putting, and only a woman who is desperate for marriage that will sustain such conversation.

Gone are the days when you would tell a lady that she is an acute or obtuse angle or the next best thing after sliced bread and she starts blushing pink.
These days, our ladies are becoming increasingly self aware and confident, and it takes a man who confidently owns his manhood to get their attention.

These ones are too intentional to expend their resources on conversations that don’t encourage their growth and expansion.

Please don’t take this as an insult.
If your ego is a little bruised, it means that you need to man up and do the right thing.
Don’t give yourself off as a boy who doesn’t know what he wants.

Our ladies want to relate with intentional men and if you must rebrand your speech or learn to communicate better to achieve your aim, do it.

I know that some of you will spill bile about this letter but I also know that a sizeable number of you will put the valuable pieces of this letter to good use.

If you do not have the time to give genuine compliments, give clear commendations or engage intelligibly, stay away from her inbox.

I am only writing this to help. Don’t take it personal but take it seriously, if it concerns you.

Kind regards,
Chinaza Favour,
Just another lady in the block.

Writen by CHINAZA FAVOUR